The wind of anger blowing across several communities in Nigeria against unrealistic cultural practices especially as it has to do with traditional weddings and burials has touched Benue state. We know that several men don’t marry early because they don’t have money to meet the demands of in-laws before a girl is handed over to the groom. This practice of asking too much before handing over a girl’s hand in marriage is unrealistic. For instance, why would a community be requesting for 300 tubers of yam before giving out their daughter in marriage? Is she a yam? On a more serious note this is unfair to guys. Today some states in Nigeria have started considering legislations against such practices.
In Benue state, a community has banned all men having their traditional marriages from spending more than N100,000 or be penalized. This was made known by the traditional ruler of that community in an interview on Joy FM on Thursday.
Chief Sir Sunday Ekele Jp, the traditional ruler of Otukpa, the headquarters of Ogbadibo LGA of Benue, has banned intending groom in the community from spending more than N100, 000 on traditional wedding. According to Chief Ekele, the decision became imperative following complaints from young men in the community that outrageous bride price has been discouraging them from getting married.
He said any one found disobeying the new law would be penalized.
Accoding to Chief Ekele,“Money should not prevent anyone from getting married in our community. From now onward, no one should spend more than hundred thousand naira before he gets a wife in our community. We need to encourage the young men so they won’t be scared of going into marriage.”
Reports have it that the Chairman, Tiv Area Traditional Council led by the Tor Tiv, His Royal Majesty, Ochivirigh, Prof. James Ayatse had recently set up a 15-member committee to do something about the high bride price and expensive burial requirements for burial rites in Tiv land.
The committee, which has three months to submit its report, is headed by His Royal Highness, Chief Jam Gbinde Ter Ikyor, and had been directed to investigate the reasons for the high bride price and recommend ways of addressing the challenge.
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