Wednesday , January 19 2022

5 Powerful Ways To Make People Like You In Less Than 5 Seconds

Some people find it difficult to get along with others. Some others just want certain people to like them but it seems they are liked by those not their choice. Well, there are steps you can take to get people to like the way you are, and want to get along with you. These are gestures and words used to break the relationship barrier and make your personality the delight of others.

It could be that when people meet, they begin to asses you in ways that could influence whether they want to hire you, date you, or be your friend. The best thing to always do is make sure you put across the right first impression so that people’s assessment of you will become positive.

To help you out on that front, there’s a piece on “How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds or Less” by speaker and author Nicholas Boothman. The book highlights a key strategy for ingratiating yourself with your conversation partner while greeting them. The most interesting thing about this piece is that the whole process takes just four seconds. Read this piece published on Independent to find out how to become instantly likable.

Step 1: Be open

Boothman says you’ll want to open both your body and your attitude.

In terms of your body language, Boothman says you should aim your heart directly at the person you’re meeting. Don’t cover your heart with your hands or your arms. And if you’re wearing a jacket, unbutton it beforehand.

It’s equally important to cultivate a positive attitude. While you’re greeting the person, Boothman says you should feel and be aware of that positivity.

Step 2: Make eye contact

Boothman says you should be the one to initiate eye contact, and let your eyes reflect your positive attitude.

If you feel uncomfortable making eye contact, he suggests a strategy for getting used to it: When you’re watching TV, note the eye color of the people on camera and say the name of the color in your head. The next day, do the same thing with every person you meet.

Just make sure to look away at some point — as Carol Kinsey Goman writes on Forbes, too much eye contact can feel rude or intimidating for the other person.

Nice and smiling

Smiling sends the message that you’re sincere. David Goehring/Flickr

Step 3: Beam

Boothman advises being the first one to smile. You’ll send the message that you’re sincere.

Research also suggests that smiling when you meet someone in a happy context is a useful way to get them to remember you.

Step 4: Say “hello”

Whether you say “hi,” “hey,” or “hello,” or use another salutation, you should sound delighted to be making this person’s acquaintance.

Next, you’ll want to extend your hand. Make sure to give a firm handshake, which generally creates a more positive impression.

When the person you’re meeting gives his or her name, try to repeat it a few times. For example, you might say, “Sara. Nice to meet you, Sara!”

If you’re meeting multiple people and can’t shake everyone’s hand at once, Boothman says it’s possible to conduct a “hands-free” handshake. Do everything you’d normally do while shaking someone’s hand — point your heart in their direction, say hello, and smile — but don’t extend your hand.

Step 5: Lean in

There’s no need to fall over into the person you’re meeting.

Boothman suggests an “almost imperceptible forward tilt” to show that you’re open to and interested in what the person has to say.

(This article was first published on Independent)

 

About Chinenye Nwabueze

Nwabueze is a communication researcher with several years of lecturing experience in Nigerian universities.

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