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Warning! COHABITATION CAN KILL YOUR RELATIONSHIP

The growing trend of cohabitation is receiving attention from relationship experts who believe it does more harm than good to those involved. Some people argue that cohabiting is a relevant aspect of courtship while others see it as a waste of time on a relationship that was dead from day one. In this article posted on virtuedigest.com, Roseline Obadiuno explains how cohabitation could spell doom for a relationship.

Over the years, most people associate cohabitation to celebrities in the entertainment industry. Surprisingly, in recent years it has become a norm in the society. To a reasonable extent, a good number of individuals indulge in this act and they give diverse reasons for their actions. Some are of the view that it helps them know the other party better so if their expectations are not met, they can walk away while others may believe it could strengthen the relationship of both parties when they eventually think of getting married.  In other words, people believe cohabitation is a good way to prepare for marriage.

It’s quite ridiculous how we expect a man who is already enjoying the benefits that comes with marriage when cohabiting to come and pay the dowry of a woman. Hmmm….. Despite whatever reasons, the question here is, is cohabitation the right thing to do? This article explores the following ways cohabiting is causing damage to relationships:

You both tend to neglect the quality time you both ought to spend together. The idea becomes you see each other every time by the virtue of living together. There is less time for hangouts which is peculiar if you were not living together.

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Quarrels, arguments and nagging is inevitable when partners cohabit, every slightest issue must result into a quarrel. Once this happens repeatedly, there is always a high possibility that both partners would get fed up of each other and this begins to make their relationship go down the drain and eventually end in a breakup.

It encourages fornication. Imagine partners who agreed to abstain from sex in their relationship and they begin to cohabit, the temptation becomes intense that they begin to fornicate which most likely leads to unwanted pregnancies and sexually transmitted diseases. In addition, due to the frequency of sexual experience between cohabiting partners, if they eventually get married, there is a tendency that their sex life will be less of what it should be.

It becomes worse if you have been involved in more than one cohabiting relationships because when they eventually get married, they don’t understand what it takes to maintain a quality and healthy marriage because they never had one in their relationships before marriage. Hence, there is always a high risk of divorce.

What most people don’t realize is that if you have child/children in a cohabiting relationship, it will have negative influences on the kid/kids; it could affect their behavioral pattern and their academic performances in school. The risks are that your child will not experience a stable family, especially if you break up with that person; it also affects your ability to forge a marriage down the road.  There is always a high risk of being assaulted.

Relationships come with its ups and downs, it involves a lot of work and commitments so do not complicate matters by cohabiting. Thus, it is better and safer to say ‘I Do’ before living together.

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Source:

Virtuedigest.com (Roseline Obadiuno)

The Author

Chinenye Nwabueze

He is a Senior Lecturer in the Department of Mass Communication, Chukwuemeka Odumegwu Ojukwu University, COOU, (formerly Anambra State University), Igbariam Campus.

25 Comments

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  1. Nwabugwu Sandra ijeoma

    Wonderful
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  2. Onuchukwu Chika Jennifer

    Exactly
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  3. Hallelujah somebody!!! I wish young ladies who believe that having a man in their lives is their utmost priority could read this. Cohabitation is the worst mistake a young lady could ever make. In the sight of God it’s even a sin. Pls what happened to spending the weekend if you feel you need to spend more time with your spouse and get to know him/her better? Talk about domestic violence and this is where it starts from. But NO! If Aunty goes today she’ll forget her lingerie, tomorrow she’ll forget her toothbrush and again and again she keeps leaving stuffs behind thereby slowly moving her things into her spouse crib. Ladies! May God help us o! Even in the sight of God it’s a sin.
    Nwosu Leona Uchechi
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  4. Well said..2015054127

  5. Eze Priscillia Obianuju

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    nice write up

  6. Agwaraonye uchenna Maureen

    Good idea
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  7. I concor to this, there are better ways to know yourselves than living together before professing your love in the presence of God and man
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  8. Obiechina Ifunanya Vivian

    Obiechina Ifunanya Vivian, 2016054028/DE

    I’m strongly against cohabitation, cause it’s not only that it’s a sin, it equally degrades the pride of a woman. As a woman, your spouse should yearn for you and not you living with him illegally. If you really want to enjoy every bit of it then get married and merry for the rest of your life.

  9. xactly it destroys relationships…living with your partner is wrong in the sight of God and man unless that man has placed a ring on your finger…The man might even get fed up with you but wont show you you will only notice through his body language…Give him space let gim miss you that would make him value you the more…if he wakes up the first person he sees is you when its not yet offical and you think you are doing yourself any good…cohabiting would make you look cheap nd despreate he would no longer see the worth in you

  10. wonderful.
    Reg no. 2015054070.
    Name.Ojukwu ujunwa Francisca

  11. Exactly

  12. nwankwo onyinye grace

    This thing is really rampant in Nigeria. Full of disadvantages.
    The write up is a very nice one.
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  13. Nice speaking.

    Anwuka chetachi assumpta
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  14. martinezeiru Mmesoma mirian

    Wonderful

  15. umeh blessing chinelo

    nice one
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  16. okeke ifunanya favour

    Wonderful write up and educated

  17. Anowi Onyinye Jane

    Nice write up

  18. Wow,well said,some people no go like hear this one at all

  19. Nnadozie Chikodiri

    nice write up 👍

  20. Chukwurah Uzoamaka

    Nice one he whom have ear let him ear

  21. irechukwu ifeoma 2015054042

    Exactly,Nice write up

  22. well said

  23. I concor to this , cohabitation can cause a lot of damages in the life of a woman. It makes women loss their respect and less worth .

    ibeh happiness
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  24. Chukwuanu Ekpereamaka Peace

    Plz tell themooo

  25. interesting
    Well said

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